Oneonta Camp Forget Me Not

Camp Forget-Me-Not is not just for hospice families. Camps are open to any school-aged child or teen in Otsego, Delaware and Schoharie counties who has experienced a personal loss. Even a friend who has lost a friend is welcome. We recognize that loss outside the family can be just as profound as a loss within the family.

We allow more time at our camp for fun than we do for our more serious grief interventions. We provide free time and structured recreational activities in which the campers can form a supportive bond with each other. It’s a balance the campers enjoy and that works very well.

In any family system, if one benefits, all benefit. Let’s face it, parenting today is already challenging. When a loss occurs, in addition to their own grief, parents are confronted with the challenge of effectively parenting their grieving children. Many parents aren’t prepared for this situation and haven’t gained the knowledge to confidently deal with this significant issue. It’s comforting to know their children are in the care of grief specialists, relieving them of some of the pressure and stress. If a child/teen is better able to deal with their loss, so will their parents and other family members. During camp, we also provide education for parents or guardians about child/teen grief to better equip them to face the challenges ahead.

Often, children may be reluctant or afraid at first about attending the camp. Campers quickly begin to feel a sense of pride to be part of an experience larger than themselves. They realize there are others who share a similar story and have bonded with them. They proudly wear their Camp Forget-Me-Not t-shirts knowing they have honored the person they loved and lost. We have received many comments from campers who wished the camp would go on longer.

There is no cost for the camp or for anything provided during the camp. Camp Forget-Me-Not is generously funded by local foundations and community donations.

Sometimes, children and teens have difficulty talking about the loss of a loved one to other family members because they don’t want to upset them. The camp provides a safe place where they can feel comfortable in sharing their very personal grief. A realistic fear among parents is that unprocessed grief can lead to other difficulties, such as poor school performance or social problems. Camp Forget-Me-Not is here to help children learn positive ways to deal with their grief and to avoid potential difficulties.

Campers certainly can attend more than one camp. Actually, it is recommended that they do, as new grief issues may emerge as they grow and change.